I first heard this from [[Davis, KC|KC Davis]] a few years ago. She explains that “care tasks” like laundry, the dishes, and other housekeeping responsibilities, are morally neutral. They are *functional* and do not determine how good of a person you are, how “worthy” you are of love and respect, or how virtuous you are. You don’t do laundry because it makes you a “good person”; you do laundry so that you have clean clothes. And falling behind on laundry doesn’t make you a *bad* or lazy person. See also [[{7.6} stop giving yourself extra consequences]] — the consequence for not doing your laundry is that you don’t have clean clothes, not that you’re suddenly “bad”.