# notes --- - [ ] Needs connected to [[Sexy But Psycho (2022)]]. # highlights --- >For as powerful as ‘#metoo’ has grown as far as community, awareness, solidarity, support, and consciousness-raising is concerned, there has been little movement in perpetrators standing up and saying, “I did that.” >Men who abuse their partners have a value system problem. Not an emotional one. >Abuse is not a psychological or emotional problem. It is a thinking one. > I dream of a world where we hire those who’ve decried “Racism!” “Bigotry!” “Abuse!” “Sexual violence!” “Manipulation!” “Gaslighting!” and we use them as the compass that they are ==truth-tellers are compasses== > left untreated, you begin to believe you’re truly going insane > The values we carry directly lead to harm. This isn’t correlative, it’s causal. > Abuse is not a psychological problem it is a value system one. > pause and ask yourself if perhaps she’s simply being ignored