> If there is anything this journey has taught me, it’s that identity is not fixed. Not mine. Not Wolf’s. Not even the barrier between our two identities. It’s all fluid, shifting around and doubling constantly. **Negotiating that doubling**–between our younger selves and our older selves, between our public selves and our private selves, between our living selves and our dying selves–**is a part of what it means to be human**. A bigger part of being human, though, and certainly of living a good life, is not about how we make ourselves in those shifting sands of self. It’s about what we make together. (pg. 348)