- there have been more conversations online in the past couple of years about what we “owe” each other in [[{8.5} society should work for humans|society]]. - do we owe our friends a ride to the airport? do we owe our family to answer their phonecalls? does the cashier at a grocery store owe you a greeting? - i think this is a symptom of an extractive culture – - as much as we consume, we *feel* consumed ourselves. - see [[{3.4a1a2} big tech has become imperial and extractive]]; there is a sense that our nervous systems are being constantly milked. - what is left for us to give our neighbors? - why are we framing connection to others as a value exchange? - also a symptom of an atomized culture. - either way, what we owe each other is irrelevant. - we *rely on* each other.