>the Puer lives in the illusion that everything is harder for him. **They secretly enjoy being perceived as incapable and fragile** so others take responsibility in their place… > **To compensate for this mediocre life they're abducted by the intoxicating realm of possibilities, potentials, and romantic obsessions. There’s a perpetual longing for the perfect thing and waiting for the perfect conditions.** When everything falls apart they look for someone to blame, when in reality, they never commit to anything long enough and never go all in. > Sticking to the process involves realizing that they aren't a special snowflake and will have to endure the learning process just like everybody else. Many fall on the perfectionism side, but this is only a protection against an imaginary failure. The mindset “If I never try I can’t ever fail” perfectly encapsulates this. This tends to mingle with procrastination, and as a result, **they're constantly stuck.** But **procrastination is only a symptom of something deeper, their desire to never grow up and fully take responsibility for their lives.** > They refuse to pay the price to achieve any greatness, but this shouldn’t matter, after all, they’re constantly substituting reality with their fantasies. **In fantasy land, they can continue dreaming about everything they want to achieve and remain completely inert.** To compensate for this lack of action, their fantasies usually involve megalomaniac deeds, and as long as they tell everyone about their hypothetical plans they can delude themselves into thinking they're doing something productive… > to their own fantasies and little do they know that real life can set them free because **it’s in the real world that their fantasies must be given shape and be concretized.** [[kruger, rafael - pistis - demystifying jungian psychology]], pg. 40-41