- our experience with [[{1.4a3a} mother and father archetypes]], and more concrete expectations from others, form a script, set of rules, guidelines, and ideals that feel like our conditions to receive love. - these things have nothing to do with who we actually are, but are projections from others; our ego must be strong enough to differentiate between these scripts and who we truly are. - otherwise, we spend our lives repressing our selves to be accepted and don’t *develop the capacity to make our own judgments*. - the first challenge of our lives is to psychologically emancipate ourselves from our caregivers so we do not continue living under *their* shadows and projections. - so we can pursue [[{1.4b} individuation is an ongoing process that requires being able to balance the demands of our inner and outer worlds|the individuation process]] and mature our worldview, avoiding the fate of [[{1.4a3c} puella aeterna and puer aeternus are stuck in a childish worldview|puella and puer]]. - [[life calls us forth to independence]]